This is it!
“This is it, Mami!,” exclaimed my daughter. My son knew exactly what she was talking about it. “This is the place from the picture! We found it!” And yes, I definitely knew what they were shouting about. Only I had trouble responding because I had tears in my eyes, was awestruck by its beauty and dumbfounded by the fact that we had made it. My heart swelled with pride because I had made it happen. We were there... Read More
Not everyone who struggles with executive function skills has ADHD. And not everyone who has ADHD chooses to take medication. My personal experience is that the right medications can work wonders, but should only change you as much as eyeglasses. Eyeglasses correct your vision but not your personality. Medications enhance your ability to organize your creative ideas, to remember the ideas and to stay with the conversation. You remain true to yourself, just in a more focused and organized manner. Read More
I usually alternate my runs with yoga classes, but this week my husband is out of town, so it’s up to me to exercise the dogs every morning. Just like me, they need to get their wiggles out to be calm and focused the rest of the day. By Thursday, I had missed two of my classes and my body and soul were feeling it. One of my dogs did not want to get out of bed and I was cranky. You ungrateful canine, it is 5:45am and I am missing yoga again because of you. I could be doing downward dog, so don’t give me that downcast dog face. I had to turn my attitude around or I was going to be angry and resentful and it was not going to be pretty... Read More
Understanding the roots of negative behavior, and the neurological changes that cause it, are crucial to putting together a collaborative plan to address said behavior. Young people demonstrating aggressive, defiant, or oppositional behavior have brains that are in a constant state of alarm. Any form of punishment will not register in this state. Rather, finding a way to calm the brain and self-regulate the brain is crucial before implementing any type of discipline. Together with the child, explain how their brain is working (PFC, amygdala, etc.) and together discuss their emotional triggers and possible coping strategies. This process is both calming and empowering for the child rather than punitive. The article "Aiming for Discipline Instead of Punishment" at Edutopia goes on to give several examples of different options for discipline rather than simple knee-jerk punishment. Read More
As you all know, the mind has the power to make you or break you. Having the skills to quiet the internal criticism, the doubts and the self flagellation is crucial to success. Think about what you sometimes tell yourself: “You can’t do that. You’re not good enough. You’re too stupid. You don't deserve that.” Would you tell that to a child? To anyone? Why would you talk like that to yourself?! Having a strategy to shut down the inner critic and turn around the negative self talk is key. In fact, not only do you need to shut it, you need to drown in out with a cheerleading squad. This is where mantras come in. A mantra is a word or short statement that propels your mind into a positive state so that you can crush your goal. Here's a helpful article from Runner's World on creating your mantra... Read More